Good Grief
On Sunday, August 3, 2009 at 6:30 a.m., I officially lost my dad, Gesner Bruny. When I first got the message, I rushed to the hospital and a myriad of emotions hit me. I felt Helplessness: due to my lack of control over the situation, Peace: because I knew he was not afraid of death and he did not want to suffer, as he had towards the end of his life. I also knew he was in a better place and that while he was here he blessed those he left behind with his insight and wisdom. I also felt Confusion: due to the uncertainty of how I was supposed to act. If I’m not crying hysterically is there something wrong with me?
I decided to lean on my faith and flow with whatever would come. I knew we had a lot of planning to do for the wake and the funeral. I knew dad had prepared me for this day by telling me exactly how it was going to go down when he died. He told me that I would be crying, which was okay, but I would hear his voice say, “Mete garcon su ou.” In English that translates to, “Man up or be a man.”
My immediate form of expression came on 8/3 while in his hospital room following his passing. I guess Jay-Z came close when he said, “I can’t see them coming down my eyes so I had to make the song (poem in this case) cry.” This was my original poetry from his bed side.
“At times like these I do what I do best. At times like these I flow. I’ve been blessed with a pen or even two, but all I can think is, “What would Dad want us to do?” My stance will not change, “Love he while he is here, don’t miss him when he’s gone.” This one here was a don.
He taught me so much of what I do. I stand firm when I say, “I wouldn’t have made it if it wasn’t for you!” Just live your life, is what he would say. He’s been preparing us for 10 years for this one day. That don’t make it easy, that I know, but I won’t even ask, “why’d he have to go.”
Thy will be done. Thy will be done. We should know we are in the control of “The One.” But like Sinatra, “you did it your way,” you waited to see your sister before you said, “OK.. I’m ready to go, my bags are packed, sorry kids from this trip I won’t be back. I’ll prepare a place for you in heaven and I don’t want to see you soon; but when you do get here, I’ve prepared a room. So take care of each other, ‘Pour mon Coeur.’ After all, ‘nu tout sey Frere et Soeur.’” So till we see you again Pop, know you raised, “Bonne l’enfant. We will make sure your legacy lives on, “Nor-Mal-Man.”
My current focus is on honoring my dad’s legacy and the principals he has instilled in me.
Your Ambassador,
Mike Bruny, CPCC
Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Author
Run the Point Enterprises
www.runthepoint.com
Gone Digital:
Facebook: www.facebook.com/mike.bruny
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/mikebruny
Twitter: http://twitter.com/Runthepoint
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Author of: "Move the Crowd: 30 Days of Hip Hop Affirmations To Change Your Life." www.runthepoint.com/products
I decided to lean on my faith and flow with whatever would come. I knew we had a lot of planning to do for the wake and the funeral. I knew dad had prepared me for this day by telling me exactly how it was going to go down when he died. He told me that I would be crying, which was okay, but I would hear his voice say, “Mete garcon su ou.” In English that translates to, “Man up or be a man.”
My immediate form of expression came on 8/3 while in his hospital room following his passing. I guess Jay-Z came close when he said, “I can’t see them coming down my eyes so I had to make the song (poem in this case) cry.” This was my original poetry from his bed side.
“At times like these I do what I do best. At times like these I flow. I’ve been blessed with a pen or even two, but all I can think is, “What would Dad want us to do?” My stance will not change, “Love he while he is here, don’t miss him when he’s gone.” This one here was a don.
He taught me so much of what I do. I stand firm when I say, “I wouldn’t have made it if it wasn’t for you!” Just live your life, is what he would say. He’s been preparing us for 10 years for this one day. That don’t make it easy, that I know, but I won’t even ask, “why’d he have to go.”
Thy will be done. Thy will be done. We should know we are in the control of “The One.” But like Sinatra, “you did it your way,” you waited to see your sister before you said, “OK.. I’m ready to go, my bags are packed, sorry kids from this trip I won’t be back. I’ll prepare a place for you in heaven and I don’t want to see you soon; but when you do get here, I’ve prepared a room. So take care of each other, ‘Pour mon Coeur.’ After all, ‘nu tout sey Frere et Soeur.’” So till we see you again Pop, know you raised, “Bonne l’enfant. We will make sure your legacy lives on, “Nor-Mal-Man.”
My current focus is on honoring my dad’s legacy and the principals he has instilled in me.
Your Ambassador,
Mike Bruny, CPCC
Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Author
Run the Point Enterprises
www.runthepoint.com
Gone Digital:
Facebook: www.facebook.com/mike.bruny
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/mikebruny
Twitter: http://twitter.com/Runthepoint
==========================================================
Author of: "Move the Crowd: 30 Days of Hip Hop Affirmations To Change Your Life." www.runthepoint.com/products
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